Love, Loss, and Growth: Memoirs of a Journey Towards Healing

What would be the meaning of life without the ever-continuing highs and lows? Would we be able to experience happiness in its most authentic sense without having to go through pain? We certainly don’t think so. That’s the beauty of grief—without experiencing grief, one cannot encounter the eccentricities healing offers.

Love – the Name of the Sweetest Pain

When we fall in love with someone, we wish to wrap a blanket of protection around them. We don’t want them to experience the slightest hurt in life. Making them smile becomes a life’s mission.

Their pain becomes your pain—you feel every hurt they carry inside. Your wish to remove the burden from their chest trespasses any logical thoughts. However, the truth is that sometimes people we love don’t want to be saved. They carry their baggage, and you cannot possibly take it from them without harming yourself in the process. Author Sage M. Forman expresses similar feelings in their book Somewhere Between ‘JUST FINE’ and the Emergency Room in beautiful words when they write, “‘You are drowning,’ warns the voice.”

The Intimate Connection Between Grief and Growth

Confronting grief is the first step toward growth. Carbon, in order to become a diamond, has to undergo pressure. Gold is tested with fire. These are just metaphors, but their symbolic implications are real. To reach somewhere and become resilient, humans have to experience pain. Sometimes, we tend to be embarrassed about encountering pain, but we don’t realize the role it plays in transforming us.

Pain can be bitter at the time, but nevertheless, it is essential to help you heal and reach the best version of yourself.

Your Hardships Pave a Path for Healing

It is understandable why we would try to refute adversities. Reacting to negative instances is the body's defense mechanism; we either fight the situation or take flight.

We all get swayed by the intense moments of hurt. In those times, all we know is how much an invisible dagger penetrates the heart. Hurt can overshadow logic, but you don’t have to let your hurt dictate your actions. During moments when you feel like there’s no hope left, this blog might serve as a reminder to be a rebel in the face of your troubles. We introduce a few ways in which hurt can add integrity to your character and help you navigate through harsh moments:

A Reminder That the World Needs Your Kindness

People who face their hurt instead of escaping it understand the essence of pain. They don’t want others to feel the misery that they have felt. They empathize with others’ struggles. Life might have been cruel to them, but their pain reminds them to be kind to everyone regardless.

Makes One Aware of Their Nature

Pain offers insight into yourself. When you confront hurtful feelings, you open your eyes to your behavior patterns. This helps you understand how to navigate your life and turn your challenges into your power. You get closer and closer to yourself with the pain you endure.

It Makes Easier to Let Go of Things You Have Little Control Over

As much as we put our minds into creating and planning life’s route, there are parts over which we lack control. We cannot possibly determine our exact journey. Hardships keep us grounded in the restrictive control we have over our lives. They make us focus on what’s present rather than holding on to what has already happened and what might.

The road to healing is quite a task, and that, too, is a difficult one. Only those who have traveled this road know the immense storms they have weathered to stand with utmost resilience. Although unwanted, pain can prove beneficial in helping you connect with your inner self and add layers to your integral character. The agony you face might be a step to help you reach your prime self.